When K and CT started planning this reception/party, there were only two main requirements: a relaxed party and good food. They held the reception on the Saturday after the wedding took place on Thursday, so that the nerves of the actual ceremony would be over.
By the time "kids" get to this age, the numbers start gaining on you. They have high school, college, and work friends. They had to edit their guest list quite a bit. They had a hard time with this, but their parents had a harder time. (There was a whole 2nd generation of my dear relatives and quite a few work colleagues that we didn't have room to include. About killed me!) In the end, the goal was to surround themselves with the people who love them and the ones who have maintained a close relationship through the years.
For the food: CT's dad and friend took care of the meat and baked beans. They smoked and barbequed pork and deep fat fried 15 turkeys.